you won't make yourself a name if you follow the rules

Looking for any links you might have bookmarked on all sides of the debate about whether female slashers are appropriating gay male experiences. I'm hitting up DuckDuckGo, but that gives me oft-linked-to links, not necessarily good links, and I figure if y'all have bookmarked them they've got to be good.

(no I cannot leave well enough alone why do you ask)

(okay I think I've got enough; yay metafandom)